Marriage is a dynamic intricate institution with such engineering complexities that it literally would take getting to eternity to understand the wisdom of God who put this all together. “so shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave onto his wife and they two shall be one flesh” then as if this wasn’t enough.  Apostle Paul in the book Ephesians 5 laid down some specific rules and dynamics (laws) that we should follow if we want to obtain the blessings of this institution.

This has sparked generational debate that too this day, still reeks with mis-information, mis-translations, mis-understandings resulting in mis-directions.  I am excited to meet Christ and to ask him how did he really expect us mere human beings to live up and to appreciate such a life to which we have little understanding of? How did you expect two people from two different worlds, different lives, different up-bringing, different teachings, cultures and yes different races to come together to form a flesh bond?

Looking back, I think Paul was a very intelligent man, did you see what he said after he told us about the rules of engagement for the operational procedures before you choose to get married? No? you didn’t see? Ok here is what he said in 1Cor 7: 1-7. and I quote.

Verse 1.  … “it is good for a man not to touch a woman” – OK!

Verse 2. “To avoid fornication, let EVERY MAN have his OWN WIFE, and let EVERY WOMAN have HER OWN HUSBAND”- make a whole lot of sense to me

Verse 3 “Let the husband render unto his wife DUE (meaning that it is required and therefore it is owed) benevolence (goodness, kindness, the quality of well being) “and likewise also the wife unto the husband”- (no room for negotiations here. you are cornered, in. You have to give kindness and you have to receive kindness…alright then)!

Verse 4. “The wife hath not power over her own body but her husband” (YES) and likewise, also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.” (Ok then) … could it be that this was what God said way back in genesis about the one flesh?…

Verse 5. “Defraud ye not one another, except it be with consent for a time” (alright some clarity here, Paul said that you CANNOT hold back, love, intimacy, and all that good ole stuff except with consent, (consent means to permit, agreement and approval). Both should be unified and in agreement and of the same mind set and belief.  Then he continues “that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer”; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency (lack of self-control)”.  Which means! So, after prayer and fasting ends, you should come back again to resume intimacy with each other.

Verse 6. “But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.” (Whose permission?) (Where did Paul get his instructions?)  (It was from the holy spirit, he is making it clear here that he is not commanding you to do all those things, he is reporting it to you from the holy spirit).

Verse 7. And could this be one of the reasons why Paul said that he would remain single. Here Paul in his own words, (I quote) “For I would that all men were even as I myself remain single”

To avoid fornication, let EVERY MAN have his OWN WIFE, and let EVERY WOMAN have HER OWN HUSBAND”- make a whole lot of sense to me

• Marriage is serious business folks, this institution is for serious people, it’s not for the faint of heart, it’s not for people who are emotionally unstable. It is for dedicated committed people who wants to build a life together with God as their guide.  Marriage is for individuals that is willing to live a committed life and fidelity to each other in the fear of God…   Are you married but still living a single lifestyle?  Paul had a lot to say about this subject. Let’s study him more and find ways to make our commitment to each other STRONGER.